It's better to have never loved at all...

"It is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all..."
I disagree with this statement, atleast right now, at this point in my life. Right now, I believe that it is better to have never loved all, the alternative hurts to much. My heart is broken, again, and maybe one can say I've done this to myself. Maybe one can say all the "shoulda, woulda, coulda's," but it is what it is and my heart hurts. I waited for so long to feel love. I waited for so long to find someone who would love me and make me feel like I was the most important person in the world. I waited for 3o years, and then to have to give it all up. How am I supposed to do this? I know all the cliche' sayings, "This too shall pass," "Time heals all wounds," "It'll get easier," "It'll be worth it," etc. Blah, blah, blah...It doesn't change the fact that it hurts, it doesn't change the fact that he doesn't understand what I've done or even why. It doesn't change the fact that he has taken this as an attack against his person...it stings to think that he would even entertain the thought that I don't love him, or I don't love him enough. That I don't think he's good enough, or spiritual enough, or whatever. That he would take this as a personal failure.
This isn't about him at all...I wish I could help him to understand that this is about me. This is about me being obedient to the voice of God. He is taking me to a place where His face is what I must seek. I must be so lost in God, the he has to seek God to find me...How do I help him to understand? How do I make it hurt less. How do I show him, tell him, that I love him more than my English words could ever say? That if this was about my will, I would be with him right now and forever...I don't know that he isn't the one...I just know that he isn't the one right now.

To you:
I don't know if you will ever read this...I don't know if I will ever talk to you again...but I need you, I want you, to know that I love you with every breath that I take. I think of you in my every movement. I want for you, God's best. I want you to seek Him with everything that you are and believe Him for the absolute impossible. I want you to know that I never meant to hurt you like this, but you must know that this isn't easy for me. I don't want to do it, but I know I have too. One day, I hope we can both believe that the ending will be better than the beginning.
There aren't the right words to tell you what is in my heart, so I will tell you that I will pray for you every day of my life...You have changed my life...tidbits

Broken once again,

Blue

For granted...

I have learned alot over the past couple of months, actually over the past couple of years, but the past few months (almost 7 months) have been a time of stretching, of learning, or change, and so many more things. I have learned to not take anything for granted, or I am trying not to anyways. How many times have you walked outside just because you can? Do you know that there are men and women who haven't seen the sun in months, maybe even years? Last Wednesday was the first time that Shawn had seen the sun in 7 months. It was the first time in 7 months, he felt the wind blow across his face, the first time he heard the birds chirp. How many times have I taken all of those things for granted? Do you know that Shawn hasn't had the physical touch of friend, a hug, in 7 months? How many times have I taken for granted the physical touch, the hug, of a friend for granted? How many times have I taken for granted the freedom I have to choose what and when I want to eat? How many times have I taken for granted the sunrise and the sunset? How many times I have taken for granted the freedom I have to attend church and to worship Jesus the Almighty with my fellow friends and believers? Yes, I have been found guilty to take my physical freedom for granted; But I have also been found guilty of taking my spiritual freedom for granted.
Shawn has taught me that there is no sacrifice that is to great, there is no freedom that is to small. So, for Jesus and for Shawn I will strive to live to my fullest, not taking all the small things I am honored to be a part of, for granted.
Shawn has been transferred out of Ellis county to the Gurney Unit in Palestine, Tx. He was ready, that I know:) He was ready for a change, for something different, something new. Here, he will be able to go outside, etc. Here there seems to be more "freedoms" then where he was at. We haven't been able to talk to him, it will be about a month, but we are praying for him daily and believe that the Lord has gone before him. I know that the sooner he goes, the sooner we get this over with.
We are still waiting for God to perform His miracle. We know that He is going to, on His time:) So many things have already happened, I wish I could share it all with you, but the time will come for that:) God is already using Shawn's story, his website, to change lives. He is already preparing the way and opening the doors, getting things ready for when Shawn comes home! It has been amazing...opening doors for Shawn's book, turning his story into a film, a documentary, and so many other things. I know that Shawn's prayer, as well as the prayer of our family, is that God will recieve the ultimate glory through all of this...we believe that God is going to perform such a miracle that there will be no doubt that it was God. We believe that not only will our extended family and friends be changed and transformed through Shawn's story, our story, but people we have never met throughout the world! We believe that what satan has meant for evil, what he thought he would use to steal, kill, and destroy us, God has and is and will continue to only use for His glory! We are not the same! I know I am not the same and I know that Shawn is not the same! I know that God is changing the Quinney family and we are not the same!
I must go for now, but I will write again soon:)
Keep us all in your prayers and I will keep you all updated the best that I can.

Taking nothing for granted,

Andrea

I had forgotten...

Here I am...I'm sitting in Hastings, using their internet to apply for jobs, update my phone, check my facebook, and think and pray about everything I've gone through, everything I'm feeling, everything I'm facing at this point in my life. Realizing this: I had forgotten. I had forgotten about the things that God has promised me. I have been so wrapped up in the here and now, that I had completely forgotten what His promises for me were. I had forgotten about all the things He has already done in my life. I had forgotten about the time that He healed me as an infant (probably because I only know of this through others, I was only an infant). I had forgotten about what He kept me from when I was a teenager. I had forgotten how, when I needed, actually it wasn't even a NEED, I simply wanted a laptop, He laid it upon a strangers heart to write me a check and mail it to me, because God told her my faith was big and He wanted to bless me with my heart's desire. I had forgotten about how, a few years later when that laptop had crashed, that He blessed me with another laptop, and that same year, somone else gave me a really nice Apple desktop computer. I had forgotten how during my Grandmother's struggle with cancer, He told me over and over that He was going to heal her, and when He didn't heal her the way I wanted, expected Him to, He reminded me that He did heal her...exactly the way He planned. I had forgotten how as a young child He saved me...He has continued to save me from the plans of the enemy. I had forgotten about the time when I was 22 years old and I was lonely, I didn't have any friends, and a lady I didn't know in church, came up to me and told me that God had heard my cry for friends, (a cry that I had never shared with anyone) He has taught me how to be a good friend, and He was going to send me good friends, I would never be without them again. I had forgotten that now, I have more friends than I have ever had in my life, and they are GOOD friends. I had forgotten about the calling, the anointing He has placed on my life. Although it may be undefined, I know that it is there. I had forgotten that He uses me to speak into people in a way that I have never seen anyone else do. I had forgotten about how much He loves me. I had forgotten how He has promised that the ending is going to be so much greater than the beginning. I had forgotten about how He has promised that through all the struggles, all the pain, all the anger, all the confusion, and fear, and worry, and doubt, that HE IS STILL GOD! Just because everything in my life is not perfect, or as I think it should be, does not mean that He has forgotten about me. I am more important to Him than the sparrows in the tree.
God, please forgive me for forgetting. Forgive me for not remembering everything that you have done for me. Forgive me for treating you as if you are human and you are finite. Thank you for reminding me that YOU ARE GOD! Thank you for reminding me that You are supernatural, that what the world says can not be done, you do. Thank you for reminding me that You have never forgotten about me, that You have always been faithful, that You have always come through bigger and better than I could have ever dreamed or asked.

Always trying to remember,

Andrea

Bittersweet

It's been a while since I have been able to write. I had this blog all ready to go on October 6...my brother's 3o bday, but I lost it all---stupid computer...and it was to hard to write again. So, here I am:) I'm all packed and moved. I would really rather never move again, but I am SO grateful for the help that I did have...my mom and I COULD NOT have done it without them:)
Okay, so I am officially a resident of Waxahachie. Am I happy? Well, I know that I am exactly where God wants me, so there is an inner happiness...even thought nothing else is like I want it at all! I do not have a job. I moved here in faith:) I have bills that still have to be paid, that are now 3 months behind. I still owe September's rent for the apartment I just moved out of, etc. BUT I do know that I am where God wants me, He has promised to take care of me, so I must just listen closely to His voice and follow where He leads:) He has promised to never leave me or forsake me:) I did get to actually go see Shawn on Tues. which was very nice. It's so much better "in person" than on the phone---it's actually through a closed circuit television. It's bittersweet. There is never enough time, it goes by way to fast either way. I miss him. I miss talking to him, I miss watching a movie with him and hearing his contagious laughter at the most inopportune times! I miss just knowing he's around.
This is supposed to be the start of a new chapter for me. This is supposed to be the beginning of something amazing---I don't like the way it has started, but I will trust that God knows what He is doing:) I can't do anything else but trust and have faith in Him and His plan for my life:)

Slowly healing,

Andrea